THE INTERJECTION MARK OF DESTINY!

THE INTERJECTION MARK OF DESTINY! 

[1]ISOLA OYEBAMIJI TAIWO

“Some people are in your life for a season and some are in your life for a lifetime. Your greatest heart-ache and regret will be when you make seasonal people lifetime participant”

It can be quite amazing how we run this rat-race called ‘life’. Consider the preview: Our parents gave birth to us without knowing why; We grew up and went to school without knowing why; then at a point we pursued a career which we proudly called “Destiny”. We graduated and the search for “green pastures” begins. At the same time, we are shopping for a potential spouse; casting oexur vote for the most impressive applicant. Things fall in place and we give birth to children. Sadly, the very master plan which our parents used in constructing their future is the same one we cling to and sub-consciously used in constructing our own destiny: Though the ‘brick layers’  are different; the architect is the same. And the cycle of frustration revolves from generation to generation. To be sincere, some of us can look at our background and childhood experiences and agree that we are acting the scripts the very script which our parents handed over to us in their sub-conscious state. I agree with an author who asserts “No man can build a personal destiny on the experiences of another”. Simply put: Be prepared to leave behind the familiar to pursue your own Destiny.

For most of us (if not all), schooling is burdensome and boring. We were only excited when we gained admission into higher institutions. But as we move to higher pedestal, boredom of studying theories that are rarely applicable in real life situations weighed us down. Then we reasoned out an escape route: RELATIONSHIP! Forgetting that relationship is a Hard Work that consumes Time, Resources and reduces Focus. I often wonder where we get this notion that relationship is the solution to all our long standing problems and childhood challenges! Predictably, We start a relationship and also get frustrated because our expectations and the happiness we sought for are not being met. And then we thought the final destination is MARRIAGE; Without being mindful of the fact that a person’s readiness to walk down the aisle with a spouse is largely a matter of MATURITY and ENVIRONMENT.  We hope to find succor in marriage but we discover disappointment and regret. Marriage is not an end itself; it is a means to an end. It is not a destination but an event and a life style.

The bottom line is this: You’ll never understand the end of your problem if you did not understand its beginning.

I’d always thought education equals wisdom but of recent, I personally realized that there is a distinct difference between wisdom of the head and wisdom of the mind. One will see you through school and locks the gate of destiny. The other will see you through life and make you a man of perpetual impact. Of a truth, cramming will see you through school but will screw you for life. Our courses of study are never our ‘destiny’ neither are they our ‘destination’; they are means to our destiny.  No course of study on its own, no matter how prestigious or lofty has the capacity to determine any student’s future or destiny. Your class of certificate though significant and necessary, lacks the authority on its own to decide or design your future or determine how far you will.
Week 2 (14th-20th Jan) 

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[1] Isola Oyebamiji Taiwo is runs the Northern Nigeria operation of HISpirational ..job328 from the base of University of Maiduguri. Contact: 08165067640.